must be why most pugs I'm in are packed with tanks that can't hold aggro and dps that sustains 20-40k
There's quite a gulf of gaming ... understanding? maybe it's even an ethos? between those you describe and, not to be too pointed, those trying to improve at all. That playing differently has different results, indeed the idea that there even can be differences between characters that aren't dependent on the output of /who or /insp is wildly revolutionary to many "pugs"