If you were solution oriented, you would have offered advice. I don't see you suggesting where the OP can level, what guilds he can join that might have a lot of grouping going on, what quests he might enjoy working on while he levels. You say that you had fun completing a bunch of small goals, but I don't see you sharing with us what those goals are. Instead it feels like you are trying to force the OP to change and talking down to him. i.e. "turn that frown upside down" "change of mindset".