Depends on where in the world you are, your playtimes, what you want out of the game, etc. Euro - Antonious Bayle US - I'd say Xegony or Bristlebane If you don't mind being stuck on a server you can never leave with tradable loot then your looking at FV. If your starting from scratch and want people to play with - TLP servers, I'd go Mischief.
I'd say for someone staring out? Luclin, or Xegony.. they have the 2 biggest family guilds so plenty of people to group with and level up.
I would say FV what im currently on or my old server The tribunal which is now bristebane. Both are the two most populous servers out there. Andarriel
I returned to eq after 5 years. Mischief is the best server created to date. All other servers are a lost cause at this point.
Best server I have ever had was Stacy at the Tilted Kilt. She was incredibly gorgeous and was not shy. She loved the attention, and could talk about a variety of topics. Super friendly, she went out of her way to make her customers happy. A shame the restaurant closed down, she was indeed the best server I have ever encountered.
I been to my fair share lemme tell ya! My fav was Luclin, it had a good "feel" to it and my whole time there was a good experience. So I am gonna say that was the best. In terms of guilds and overall people.. BBane hands down.