My kids are grown and married but finally got computers and they decided they want to come play EQ with myself and the wife. We will all be starting over but we do want to eventually get into grouping with others and raiding(at least some) and want the kids to get as much from the game as they can. Also not everyone has the best connections, it might not matter for EQ seeing as it's so old but it might still matter so I thought Id mention it. What server Do you guys think we should start on? Thanks!
Xegony might be good. It's not overly crowded (though the Plane Of Knowledge is a bit laggy either way). And there is a large family guild, Lions of the Heart on there. Nice and relaxing for your family to get into the game.
Luclin-Stromm is an excellent pick. For EQ, you don't necessarily need a blazing fast connection. You just need a stable connection.