and you wonder why you can't finish nexus or paradox? i had a fellow healer in paradox last night that i was trying to privately [tells] give advice as to why my heals were those of a solo healer and his were 1/4th that number [yes i had the "luxury" of a second healer, who did so little it made me regret it every second]. i told him for this top tier content it's really better if he wore his healer rings instead of dps ones even if the dps ones have a higher cr. that the restoration stat they had was important. and that he should look at modding them either with synthetic or farmed mods. instead i was told it was okay for him to wear this unmodded off-role ring and his other green gear because "it's temporary". i bit my tongue for a while. really irritated though. but once the raid clearly fell apart [we had similar trouble with the burn due to lack of gear but that dps listened and made you WANT to help him instead of arguing he was doing fine], i brought up what he'd said. that it was okay to wear unmodded, green, off-role gear because it was temporary and tried explaining that it wasn't "temporary" to any of us who were in the content with him currently. this was our permanent state with him in this raid. he proceeded to argue that MY heals [which were 4x his] were the problem. the problem actually was that where normally there's been a solo healer and 4 strong to decent dps we had 2 healers [only one of them really doing his job] and 3 dps [one of which was doing a lot less damage than the top dps [or the second]]. then he walked out the door. i know this is going to fall on deaf ears. and people are going to insist that i'm not letting someone "play their own way". but please for the love of any god you might believe in. for the love of your teammates and your respect for not wasting your OWN time... please come to the top tier content prepared. flame away.